oneNgry and Scorching Hot: I have never seen a world that is engulfed. We all know that opinions and behaviors can rub some people in the wrong way. But there is no call for hostile reaction. Random action or other behavior, what happened to kindness?
“… Generosity can actually be infectious. The recipient of prosocial behavior can pay it. Kindness can actually spread.”
What’s wrong with kindness? Is it me or do you think it has fallen off the roadside?
Giving a much-needed ride, tolerating different opinions and behaviors, leaving inspiring notes, taking the time to listen to those in distress: Are you in contact with others in a kind way?
I mean, is there a time when we need more?
What’s wrong with kindness?
I encountered a striking study conducted by Professor Amit Kumar of the University of Texas at Austin and Professor Nicholas Epley of the University of Chicago. Their work was published in Journal of Experimental Psychology.
Kumar and Epley found something very interesting: those who tend to focus on the object or service they offer. On the other hand, the recipient will grasp the warmth of good behavior.
Bottom line: The “misunderstood expectations” of the giver often hinders “good behavior” such as helping, sharing or donating.
Research details
To learn more about these attitudes and behaviors, the team conducted two clever experiments. Let’s see…
Experiment #1
In the first experiment, 84 participants were recruited at Maggie Daley Park in Chicago. Participants can choose to give strangers a cup of hot chocolate from the food booth or reserve. Seventy-five decided to give it away.
Therefore, members of the research team (performers) handed over the hot chocolate to strangers and told them that it was in the direction of the participants.
Recipients report their mood, while performers indicate how they think the recipient feels about it.
result
The performers underestimate the meaning of providing hot chocolate. They expect the recipient’s mood to be on average 2.7, with a scale of -5 (much higher than normal) to 5 (much higher than normal), while the recipient’s average is 3.5.
According to Kumar…
People have no way to go from the base. Their friendly nature of people makes them feel good. What we don’t get is that it really makes others feel it.
Can you talk about it?
Experiment #2
“You don’t know what that means to me. Thank you.”
The researchers continued to conduct a similar experiment on 200 participants in the same park – cupcakes.
What was particularly interesting about the experiment was that 50 participants were told that they could hand over the cupcakes directly to strangers—no performers were involved.
These recipients consider the cupcake gift to be a kind act, much more than the cupcakes given by the performer.
Kumar…
The performer does not fully consider his passionate behavior to provide value from the behavior itself. The fact that you are kind to others adds a lot, not something.
Do you think most people know?
Go to the laboratory
Finally, Kumar and Epley added a lab component to evaluate the consequences of goodness. Participants first received a gift from the lab store, or a gift from another participant. Then they played a game.
All participants who received the gift were told to allocate $100 to them and unknown recipients.
The researchers found that those who received lab gifts through another participant’s random act of kindness gave strangers a $100 portion of beer. Indeed, they are more generous.
Again, Professor Kumar…
It turns out that generosity can actually be infectious. Recipients of prosocial behavior can pay for it. Kindness can actually spread.
Go and see, right?
Let’s spread
What’s wrong with kindness? Again, am I the only one who thinks it becomes scarce in these flames of anger? Is this just because we underestimate the effects of kindness?
This study emphasizes the great value of kindness. Random action or other behavior, it just makes people feel good. I chose to believe that most of us know this.
Let’s spread it.
It’s impossible to include everything, so keep checking out the original article about UT News, random acts of kindness make it bigger than expected.
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After decades of panic, general anxiety, mood swings and alcohol dependence battles; Bill finally found his passion and work for life – to reach out to those on the same boat. At the age of 49, he went to school and obtained a consultation certificate. He continues to serve through Chipur and other projects.
